Sunday, April 25, 2010
WHAT IS SHAME
Shame comes from guilt. When we feel guilty or believe we are found guilty, we hang our head in shame. Why?
We hang our head, because we are saying “I don’t want you to see me, and what I have become”, “I don’t want you to see my guilt or the act all over again”, also “I don’t want to see your disappointment in me, I don’t want to see the hurt I have done to you”
Guilt cannot truly be hidden. When we experience it, even if no one else sees it, it is just as real as we are. Guilt brings about shame. However, these two do not bring about a change of behavior or attitude.
Determination does that. We must become determined that we will not make the same mistake again, then true repentance can come from the heart. Repentance is made in effort to change, not an effort to apologize, or being sorry that we were caught. True repentance says, I turn away from the wrong doing and I turn back to doing right. Forgiveness does not come because we say we are sorry. Forgiveness comes when our actions show a true sorrowful repentance. Bottom line I am not sorry I got caught, but I am sorry that I got trapped into doing wrong.
Repentance takes a bold look on ourselves and we become determined to change.
Now the Holy Spirit has something to work with.
Shame and Guilt alone cannot produce this life changing experience.
We hang our head, because we are saying “I don’t want you to see me, and what I have become”, “I don’t want you to see my guilt or the act all over again”, also “I don’t want to see your disappointment in me, I don’t want to see the hurt I have done to you”
Guilt cannot truly be hidden. When we experience it, even if no one else sees it, it is just as real as we are. Guilt brings about shame. However, these two do not bring about a change of behavior or attitude.
Determination does that. We must become determined that we will not make the same mistake again, then true repentance can come from the heart. Repentance is made in effort to change, not an effort to apologize, or being sorry that we were caught. True repentance says, I turn away from the wrong doing and I turn back to doing right. Forgiveness does not come because we say we are sorry. Forgiveness comes when our actions show a true sorrowful repentance. Bottom line I am not sorry I got caught, but I am sorry that I got trapped into doing wrong.
Repentance takes a bold look on ourselves and we become determined to change.
Now the Holy Spirit has something to work with.
Shame and Guilt alone cannot produce this life changing experience.
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